I just joined this community and I seem to be at a loss for words. So out the window with my witty introduction. To give a few simple stats I am a twenty three year old bio female(genderqueer at heart) that lives in Oak Park Illinois. I have been in a relationship for two years with a woman and I have finally come to terms with the fact that I am poly. After seven years of living as a monogamous lesbian it shocked even me. First dealing with the feelings of being genderqueer followed by the undeniable need to express my love for other people outside of my partner. In the course of our relationship we have talked about my needs in regard to this many times. She maintains the fact that she doesn't need to be poly to be with me. I understand it but at the same time I feel a certain amount of guilt. I am aware that the guilt stems from me and therefore is my issue.I am just wondering if there are any tips for diminishing this feeling?